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can change the way you think about things,
which helps the way you feel and leads to a clarity in your
life… and you can become a lot happier
and confident with who you are”.
-
Bev Smith,
Pharmacist, UK
"The Bullying Culture"
Why and how do bullies bully?
What
are the
effects on people and workplaces?
What strategies are effective in addressing the issues and effecting
lasting change?
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"Coaching has been
a
wonderful experience. It has made me see ME in a different light, a
much brighter one"
-Y.C,
Teacher, UK
An
antidote to workplace bullying:
"Effective
Coaching in Healthcare"
" I have
experienced a tremendous
amount of growth in the last 6 months I have a deeper
understanding and love for myself. I am now
able to take my own coaching clients further in their personal journey."
- Sandy
Tremp,
Life
Coach, USA
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Bullying
Freedom from Workplace
Bullying
"Nobody can make you feel
inferior
without your
consent"
- Eleanor Roosevelt
Every relationship is a dance, and the
bully-victim dance is no different.
If you repeatedly fall victim to workplace bullies,
the only real solution is to understand the dance and know what you can
do, to stop it.
Bullies can't bully everyone, they target people who they know will do
the dance.
How
do they know? They look for specific behaviour patterns and specific
reactions. This is the meaning of the Eleanor Roosevelt quote above. By
continuing to 'dance' with them, and not changing your patterns, you
are implying that you consent to the dance. There is more to this
quote, and this pattern than meets the eye. Self-awareness is key. Are
you aware of your own patterns of reacting, that keep you in the dance?
You
don't need to think about asking them for permission, or getting them
to change. You only need to focus on yourself. When you change your patterns of
relating, they will have to leave you alone- because you just won't
fit into their 'dance'. They will have no choice.
The key is to identify those patterns in yourself, and change from there.
And the exciting thing is this -
YOU are the person who has the power to do this, not them.
Changing
the dance...
Imagine
you are both doing a Tango. You have been dancing this
old dance
for years now and you are tired of it. All you need to do is change the
steps and do another dance.
Imagine
you want to do the Jive. It is more lively and modern. So you start to
Jive. Now your 'partner' (the bully) has no choice - they can either do
the Jive with you, go find another partner who will do the Tango with
them, or stop dancing.
It
really is that simple. With personal coaching you can identify the
steps in this relationship dance that you want to change. You can learn
new steps. You can also learn how to set clear boundaries, and handle
difficult situations, so you don't get sucked back in when the bully tries to persuade you to do the
old dance again.
You are
invited to try a 20-minute coaching consultation, to
see how it works.
It's easy: just eMail ruth@dreamcoach.co.uk
to arrange a day and time. (...and it's free)
Are you ready
to change your dance?
We offer a range of excellent coaching programs designed
to help you change the steps in your relationship dance.
Changing The
Bullying Culture
- assertiveness,
- boundary
setting,
- clear
communication
- and
much,much more.
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Are You Ready
to Change?
Click HERE
to choose the right coaching program for you.
(For all enquiries about speaking, training and corporate coaching
eMail ruth@dreamcoach.co.uk
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Professional Support With
Workplace Bullying and Mobbing
NOTE:
Please don't ask us to review your case. We are not qualified to give
advice on employment law, or
the merits of your particular case. Neither do we offer any kind of
therapy
although, with your therapists agreement, our coaching programs can
support many forms of therapy
including Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT).
Read more... "10
Steps to
Personal Power"
Things
you can do if you are being bullied at work:
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