Life Coaching for personal, professional and spiritual development

Coaching with Kathleenruth I offer a listening ear, an open heart and a gentle wisdom voice. For when you need clarity and wisdom. Loosely based on the person-centred approach I use an ecclectic style incorporating mindfulness, awareness, cognitive behavioural tools and other techniques to act as a clear mirror for you. Let me be clear. Your wisdom and clarity won’t come from me. I simply bring presence and enjoy being with you. I bring life experience, strength, wisdom, kindness and humour, but I am mostly conscious of the fact that you are unique and nobody knows you as well as you do. I love to reflect to you how I witness your gifts and how they flow into the world. Click here to read about kathleenruth

	"If you work with people the greatest gift you can give to them is your accepting, loving, presence. Your compassion. Since you can’t give what you haven’t got, the foundation is to first be able to create it for yourself. I will support you in doing this."
You are your own expert
You really are the best expert on you. No one knows you like you do. I simply assist you in identifying and aligning with your strengths, and maybe invite you to tweak your lifestyle a little, so that you lead a strengths-based life. This keeps you in flow, aligns you with Life’s greater purpose and brings you joy and energy. I encourage you to deepen your awareness of yourself on many levels: your strengths, limitations, passions, needs, skills, challenges and talents. This is primarily done through a deepening process of skillful self-observation. I encourage most clients to keep a reflective journal which not only reflects back your patterns and processes but is a record of your insight and progress. The wisdom and clarity which you gain from this process is yours. It is a gift from you to you.

What happens in a session?
Through deep listening, both to what is said and unsaid, I am sometimes able to reflect what is in your heart. I do this by acting as a mirror for what is already right there in your heart and what, deep down, you already know to be true about yourself.

"[Kathleen]Ruth is a practical, warm, intuitive, knowledgeable coach... I discovered validation of myself and acknowledged that whatever stage I'm at, it's okay.. to say that [Kathleen] Ruth is a brilliant coach is true, but that doesn't begin to express her deep and thorough understanding of what motivates people, her instinctive knowing of what stage they're at and where they need to go next. Such a skill is not merely valuable, but priceless." Julie Plenty, Personal and Business Coach, UK

Every one of us, without exception, has unique gifts, strengths or talent, but for many they remain buried under years of negative self-concept, low self-esteem, limiting and fear beliefs, simply not being aware of our strengths and/or a belief that we’re not good enough.

Often we are unaware of the beliefs and attitudes that impede us, but they leak out in our actions and language all the time. As we work together, and I listen to you, I will often interrupt you. I’m not being rude. I will use every opportunity to let you know whenever I hear you using revealing language. This will illuminate beliefs that you are currently holding which are undermining you. It is just information that you need for your own self-awareness.

"I loved your dynamic approach to helping people and the way you do it with such a sense of humour!" C.B, Liverpool, UK

We work together on real situations, not imaginary ‘hypotheses’. This is important so that you get to see yourself more clearly. Sometimes I use interaction analysis. This technique is where together we look at an interaction between you and another person, and we break it down. We examine who said what, what happened next, and what might happen if you changed something. More importantly we look at you: what were you thinking and feeling? How did you react and respond? We look at how you communicate. We look at your motivation. We look at where you give your power away.

Develop your gentle inner wisdom voice
I encourage you to listen deeply to your own inner dialogue: how you talk to yourself. You will be able to listen more deeply to your own inner wisdom. I invite you to pacify the voices of inner criticism that we all have, and in their place create a gentle, wise, voice for your inner wisdom. Your critical inner voices gradually quieten to be replaced by a valid and reliable inner guide who supports you in meeting life’s challenges with love and patience.

Skillful Self-Observation
I also teach deep self-observation on mental, emotional and physical levels so you begin to understand yourself even more deeply and see what you need or want to change. This Focused Awareness Technique (FAT!) helps you to see how you are doing in any situation and is a valuable tool for developing relational depth, emotional and social intelligence and improved relationship skills.

Making changes
Self-awareness is only the beginning. It is part of a continous process in which you discover deeper and deeper layers within yourself. You will begin making changes in your life. These changes don’t come from me but come from within yourself and are directed solely by you. This is natural as you develop more awareness you will clearly see what isn’t working for you, and you will become clear about what you want to change. You will see habits and patterns that no longer work for you and you will, quite naturally, want to drop them.

As you develop more energy, passion, confidence and enthusiasm you will want to focus more on developing your strengths and forget about ‘fixing’ your weaknesses. Confidence and inner peace comes from trusting what you do well, setting firm boundaries, and letting go of what isn’t working for you. It takes a kind of discipline to stay focused on what you really love, and not allow yourself to be distracted by ideas of what you ‘should’, ‘ought’ or ‘must’ do!

Who works with Kathleenruth? I work with people from all walks of life and I especially love supporting people who work with other people: healthcare professionals, medical practitioners, therapists, coaches, counsellors, holistic practitioners, ministers, healers, teachers, nurses and midwives etc. If your work involves helping, healing and supporting others, I will support you in creating a solid foundation for yourself that allows you to be the very best of who you are. As you move to a deeper understanding of yourself, your confidence, well-being and presence is reflected in your practice, and your clients.

"As an experienced midwife, I found that I was unable to control the stress that was building up in my life. Working with [Kathleen] Ruth as coach, my stress level was down by 80% in just over two months! Everything is back in perspective, and I am beginning to enjoy my life again." Jacqui, Midwife, Merseyside, UK

If you work with people the greatest gift you can give to them is your accepting, loving, presence. Your compassion. Since you can’t give what you haven’t got, the foundation is to first be able to create it for yourself. I will support you in doing this.

"It is not enough to be free, we have to know that we are free, and know how to live freely" - kathleenruth

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