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Coaching FAQ: Your Coaching Questions Answered

by Ruth Hadikin, author of "The Bullying Culture" and "Effective Coaching in Healthcare"




Answers to some common questions about Coaching...
 

What is a Life Coach?

What is Life Coaching?

What is Process Coaching?

How does coaching work?

Who Works With A Coach?

Is coaching a form of counselling or therapy?

Where does the coaching take place?

What is the relationship between coaching and emotional intelligence?

Don't see your question here?

 
Q. What is a Life Coach?
A. Just as a Football Coach coaches players to succeed at football, so a Life Coach coaches people to 'succeed' at life. It's your life, so you get to decide what success looks like for you. Whatever that is, we'd love to help you to get there as quickly as possible. In football you can't afford to take your eye off the ball. In the game of Life, the ball is you. Why not register today for a no-obligation introductory Life Coaching consultation, and experience the power of Life Coaching for yourself?
 
REGISTER for an introductory consultation and discover how coaching would work for you.
 
 
Q.What is Life Coaching?

A. Coaching is a powerful tool for liberating human potential.

Coaching is a powerful tool for liberating human potential which is why no top sports player would dream of not having one. Life Coaching is a new profession which has evolved in the field of personal or self-development. There have always been 'coaches' throughout history - although 'coaching' may not have been the word they used to describe how they supported, inspired, encouraged and motivated others. In the game of Life today's top players are using Life Coaches.

 
Life Coaching draws upon the skills, wisdom and knowledge of various disciplines and sciences: psychology, business, evolution, philosophy, spirituality, quantum physics and finance; and then applies them in a specific tailored way to benefit individual clients.
 

Our Life Coaches apply a wealth of skills and wisdom on a one-to-one or group basis to bring out the best in you, nurture your self-development, deepen your awareness, improve your personal effectiveness, interpersonal skills and emotional intelligence. Coaching deepens our awareness in whichever area we choose to focus our attention.

This has immediate practical benefits such as improving your personal, career and business success. As our awareness deepens, we clearly see what it is that has held us back, or got in our way, and what we can do to move forward.

With deepening awareness we open ourselves to receive lasting rewards such as emotional and spiritual intelligence, personal fulfillment, Self-realisation and Consciousness.

How far do you choose to go? That's up to you.

 
Our definition of coaching is simply this:
Coaching is a powerful tool for liberating human potential.
 

What is Process Coaching?

Process coaching supports people who are committed to their own inner journey, or inner process. It goes a little deeper than Life Coaching and is person-centred in its' approach. The focus is deeper awareness, peeling layers and letting go of our 'story'.

It is ideal for coaches, counsellors, therapists and those on a spiritual track who are committed to personal transformation by deepening self-awareness.

 
REGISTER for an introductory consultation and discover how coaching would work for you.
 
 
Q. How does coaching work?
A. In the coaching relationship your coach and you co-create a nurturing environment which encourages and accelerates your growth. It is a 'safe' space in which you feel the freedom to express your true self. A positive, nurturing, space in which you discover your strengths, gifts and talents. A place where you can think, reflect, plan, play, experiment, learn, discover, create and take bolder action than you ever thought you could. Transformation happens through the combined effect of:
 
Teamwork: Coach and coachee(s) become a partnership, or team. The coach is a peer or 'equal'. You can use your coach as a 'sounding board' to test your ideas. Your coach will sometimes bring his or her ideas to the table to give you more choices.
 
Focus: You, as the coachee, always set the agenda. We focus only on your goals and on creating the strategy for you to achieve them.
 
Structure: You set, define and refine your goals. We identify what is needed to bridge the gap between where you are now and where you want to be. We co-create your strategy. We break the overwhelmingly 'big' goals down into 'do-able' pieces. We do this within a timescale. This provides the structure within which your dreams can become reality.
 
Commitment: You make a personal commitment to achieving your goals. Then you commit yourself to whatever steps are necessary to make them a reality.
 
Accountability: There is something about sharing your plans with another person that makes you more likely to stick to them. For example: imagine you tell yourself you will give up sugar. Then one hour into the first day someone offers you a piece of chocolate. It's so easy to have the chocolate and tell yourself you can always begin again tomorrow. What if you have told a friend of your plans, and you knew they would ask how you are getting along? It somehow strengthens your resolve.
 
Easy and effective self-management: Being accountable to yourself is only the beginning. You also need to manage yourself well. This means not only managing your time but managing, maintaining and developing systems to maintain your personal effectiveness, your health and well-being, your personal finances, your home, your car, your relationships with others and your own learning, growth and development. There's probably alot more to managing and caring for you than you realise and we'd rather you put permanent structures in place for yourself that allow this to be easy. We don't want this to have to be a huge effort on your part so we co-create easy, simple, self-care systems with you, which permanently support you and give you more energy.
 
Momentum: Checking in with your coach at regular periods by telephone and e-mail:
  • helps you to stay focused on your bigger vision
  • allows you to review your immediate goals
  • inspires you and
  • keeps your energy and momentum going
 

Experiential and Action-learning: The  weekly coaching call is only the beginning. The real learning takes place in between calls as you take action, make changes in your life, become aware of how you experience yourself in each moment, then reflect and learn from those actions and experiences.

 
...and Conscious Awareness

Read more about the coaching process, and teach yourself effective coaching skills in Effective Coaching in Healthcare by Ruth Hadikin

 
REGISTER for an introductory consultation and discover how coaching would work for you.
 
 
 
Q. Who Works With A Coach?
A. People who love self-development. People who are excited by the idea of surpassing their own potential and creating their reality. People who want to grow and evolve. People who want to live life consciously. People who want to discover what life is all about. People just like you.
 
People from varying walks of life use coaches for different reasons: teachers, students, business owners, journalists, nurses, doctors, accountants, web designers, counsellors, therapists, artists, writers, authors, sales and marketing professionals, firemen, policemen, restaurant owners, managers, musicians, celebrities, politicians and coaches themselves. Almost anybody can use a coach, whether you choose to depends on how willing you are to transform yourself...
 
It is success rather than failure which we fear the most:
 

    "Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
    Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
    It is our Light, not our Darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, 'Who am I to be brilliant , gorgeous, talented, fabulous?'
    Actually who are you NOT to be?
    You are a child of God.
    Your playing small does not serve the world.
    There's nothing enlightening about shrinking so that other people won't feel unsure around you.
    We are born to manifest the glory of God that is within us.
    It is not just within some of us;
    It is in every one.
    As we let our light shine, we unconsciously
    give other people permission to do the same.
    As we are liberated from our fear, our presence automatically liberates others."

-Marianne Williamson
Can you even imagine how magnificent you are? Most of us believe we are who we have been told. We believe in our powerlessness, low self-esteem, worthlessness and lack of confidence. We believe all these limiting ideas about ourselves and we never challenge them. Most of us have never even scratched the surface of our own magnificence. If you believe you are who you think you are... think again.
 
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Q. Is coaching a form of counselling or therapy?
No, there are very clear differences. The obvious difference is between sickness and health. Therapists work where there is ill health to diagnose and offer therapeutic treatments. A coach never diagnoses or suggests any form of treatment. Coaches work with normal healthy growth. We acknolwedge emotions as they arise, as part of developing emotional health and fitness. This is done from the perspective of the normal healthy emotions which we all experience as we go through life's changes. Emotional intelligence is all about allowing for healthy emotional growth.
 
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Q. Where does the coaching take place?
A. Most coaching for individuals, groups and small business owners takes place over the telephone with support by e-mail. It is much more expedient since we spend more time coaching and less time in travelling to and from destinations. It also saves on travelling expenses for both parties.
 
In-person coaching is usually arranged for larger groups, businesses and organisations, especially if this is associated with training packages and speaking engagements.
 
REGISTER for an introductory consultation and discover how coaching would work for you.
 
Q. What is the relationship between coaching and emotional intelligence?

A. Emotional and Social Intelligence encompasses a wide skill set which includes communication, intuition, our ability to sense what others are feeling, self-awareness and an ability to communicate what we are feeling to others. It involves advanced communication on many levels. The skill-set involved in the coaching process is analogous with advanced communication skills.

Coaching, as a tool which develops ones self-awareness, communication and relationship skills, is therefore a useful and effective tool for developing emotional and social intelligence, within teams and individuals.

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Contact Us anytime for more information on any of our coaching services, training packages or self-development products
   

Don't see your question above?

If you still have unanswered questions about coaching, personal transformation, and or emotional intelligence, put your question in an email and send it to Ruth@dreamcoach.co.uk

   

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